When we write memoir, we reclaim our own voice, we stake a claim to our version of the story. Every family has multiple story lines. There is the official version, controlled by the most powerful people in the family, usually the parents or those who have the most to lose. The lesser points of viewmost often held by the children or those lesser in powerare often not believed or accepted as true.
Weaving the Brokenness – Healing the Wound of Mother Abandonment
My story is only one such story about this topicmother-child abandonment. There are many thousands of such stories in the world, people who were abandoned as children. On my book tour for Dont Call Me MotherBreaking the Chain of Mother-Daughter Abandonment, people listen with tears in their eyes as I read about the loss and loneliness that I felt as a child, and they cheer me on as I read how I fought to find myself and create a better life.
Ghost Mothers
Mothers who are neglectful, selfish, and abandoning do not set out to do these things, they are a result of her own problems, her own pain, and maybe even mental illness. It is hard for us as her child to see this fully, or to forgive it.
Connecting the Past and the Present: Healing Abandonment and Abuse through Awareness
For people who have been abandoned, either literally by actual physical absence, or emotionallya parent can be in the home and not there for usthe abandoned child syndrome may remain years later, showing up through insecurities and fears, clinging behaviors or its oppositewalls to intimacy.
Abandoned AgainHow We Repeat Our Childhood in the Present
You can change these old patterns. It takes time, awareness, determination, and work on your part, but it can be done.
How to help stop repeating abandonment and abuse in your life now.