When we write memoir, we reclaim our own voice, we stake a claim to our version of the story. Every family has multiple story lines. There is the official version, controlled by the most powerful people in the family, usually the parents or those who have the most to lose. The lesser points of viewmost often held by the children or those lesser in powerare often not believed or accepted as true.
How To Stop The Fighting In Your Relationships
For some couples fighting is the fire that keeps them together. However this kind of behavior is doomed to fail. Find out what it is that people get out of fighting, why it takes over, and how to change this pattern in your life. Specific guidelines and steps are included. This article is based upon Dr. Shoshanna’s new book, The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living).
Mental Abuse – The 7 Most Important Things To Know
Sticks and stones won’t break your bones, but words can do considerable, long-term damage. If you have lost your confidence and you doubt your judgement, you may well have suffered mental abuse. Fortunately, it’s never too late to heal.
Zen Steps For Calming Down Easily
Its easy to calm down quickly. No matter what is happening around us, we never have to become trapped in stress or anxiety. Its important to learn how to calm down quickly this as negative emotions can easily become addictive. The longer we hold onto them, the harder it can be to let go. Zen offers many pathways to becoming free of negativity. This article is based upon Zen principles and value-centered counseling. It offers enjoyable and effective steps to calming down, fe…
Love Addiction, Approval Addiction
In my experience as a counselor for 40 years, I have found that love addiction and approval addiction are far more prevalent than any other substance or process addictions. We live in a love-addicted, approval-addicted society.
Honesty: The First Step To Happiness
Honesty is the first and most basic step to being happiy and healthy. It is not a surprise that it is teh first step in the 12-steps as well. The 12-steps are not just for addicts or people who believe in God. As a clinician I have developed an appreciation for how simply enacting the spiritual principles of the 12-Steps can drastically improve anxiety, depression, anger and addiction. Spirituality is more than just religion, it is a way of life. These principles are present …
How To Feed The Hungry Heart
Most of us live our lives hungry, hungry for love, attention, praise, success. But no matter how much we take in, its hard to be satisfied and feel full. We may get what we need momentarily, but then before long were craving more. It is easy to spend each day waiting for tomorrow when we will get what we dream of. Most think that tomorrow they will arrive arrive at their goal, find a new job, have good weather, or finally, magically, meet the love of their life.
What is your Recovery Rate?
How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviours that upset you
Recovery From Addictions: Part 1
This is the first of a 5-part series on recovery from addictions. This first part defines substance and process addictions and describes the four major false beliefs that underlie most addictions.
When Change Happens (Dealing with Loss and Grief)
The time after loss and change is volatile and confusing. However, crisis means opportunity. When we understand the dynamics of change and the process of grief is properly handled, it’s possible for an individual to grow a great deal during this time of life. We can turn a time of loss and grief into one of strength and hope.
From Anger to Peace of Mind
Anger has many faces. It appears in various forms and camouflages itself, causing serious consequences. Today anger is a problem for one out of every five Americans and growing. This article shows what anger is, when it appears, and how it affects all aspects of your life. The article, based upon The Anger Diet, by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, also shows some of the 24 forms of anger and gives specific steps to dissolve them. You will be surprised how simle it can be.
How To Stay Calm When Life Isn’t
No matter what is happening in the world around us, we can always remain calm, balanced and positive. We are not victims of the world we see, but can take certain steps to remained centered and constructive. This article, based upon Living by Zen, offers specific steps to achieving well being and balance under all conditions.