Most of us really dont like it when someone is angry at us. We dont like it when people go into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We dont like it when people withdraw from us, disconnecting from us and shutting us out.
The Trouble With Parents
Like most parents, my partner and I work hard to develop our children into healthy, well adjusted people. We want them to have the skills to persue whatever objectives they choose for themselves in this world.
None of us are perfect parents and we all learn from the past. The purpose of this article is to pass on one of our experiences. It had a profound effect on the way we approach the parenting game.
A few years ago, our two children were aged two and four. Over a …
Tips For Successful Parenting
Its not the childs fault; Believe it or not, poor parenting is the main cause of bad behaviour in children.
Kids can be frustrating, annoying and down right infuriating at times and yet youre still expected to love and care for the little angels through thick and thin.
They wont admit it as often parents dont know any different, but often the problem is due to poor parenting which manifests itself in bad behaviour in the child. This in turn has a negative affect o…
Your Children Are On Their Own Soul’s Journey
In a phone session with Gerald, one of my clients, he expressed to me that he was feeling very sad about his son, Luc. Luc, 29 years old, was not doing much with his life, and Gerald was berating himself for how he had parented Luc.
I should have spent more time with him. I should have motivated him more. I should have been a better role model. I should have been more firm with him. On and on he went, judging himself for how he had been as a parent.
Gerald, I said…
They Should Have Beat Me More – The Cycle Of Physical Abuse
In December, 2005, I conducted a two-day workshop with men who had recently been released from prison for domestic violence. With the men were their wives, as well as the father of a batterer who was still in prison.
The father, Douglas, sat in front of me, sharing his childhood experiences.
My momma was a very loving woman a big-hearted, hard working loving woman, he told me. From my many years of counseling, I knew that my definition of love and his definition of…
Kid Time And Couple Time
Summary: Are you having trouble finding time to be with your children and to be with each other? Discover how important this balance is, and what may be the underlying issue in the way of couple time.
A reader emailed me the following question:
Many dads and moms, especially those that work full-time, are torn by guilt when it comes to time allocation. They have been away from the kids so long during the working week that the weekends MUST be spent with them. Result:…
Parents, Kids And Time Alone
What are some of the ways in which you explain to kids that mom and dad need time alone, without feeling guilty about it?
A journalist, writing an article on having time alone and couple time when you have kids, asked me this question.
Parents will feel guilty only when they believe that they are doing something wrong by spending time alone and couple time without their children.
This is a false belief.
The truth is that children grow up far healthier emotionall…
Seven Tips For Effective Parenting
The birth of a child changes lives forever. Becoming a parent brings with it several concerns and responsibilities. And, the central concern becomes effective parenting. While parenting comes naturally to most, the many concerns of the modern world and its fast paced existence make parenting a many tiered concern.
Do You Want Your Children to Be Like You?
There is an old saying regarding children: Do as I say, not as I do. Whoever coined this phrase didnt know much about children. Children often do not do as we say. We are the role models regarding how our children learn to treat themselves and others. We are the role models regarding whether or not our children learn to take personal responsibility for themselves physically, emotionally, financially, relationally, spiritually, and organizationally.
How to Get Your Child to Think for Themselves
As a parent it is easy to feel like a broken record when it comes to getting your children organised for the day. If you’re tired of repeating the same thing over then try these proven strategies to get your children to begin thinking for themselves.
Are You Addicted to Your Children?
Is it possible to be using our children addictively?
Anything that we use to get love, avoid pain, and fill up inner emptiness can become an addiction even our children! If your children are your whole life if you dont have a strong spiritual connection with a personal source of love and guidance, as well as other relationships and interests that you are passionate about, you might be using your children to fill an empty place within you.
Caretaking Parents, Entitled Kids
Demanding children children who have entitlement issues seem to be common these days. Like the obnoxious child, Veruca Salt in Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory, who was constantly demanding that her father get her whatever she wanted (I want an Umpa Lumpa! Get it for me NOW!), we hear many children today uttering the fairly constant refrain, I want .! Give it to me! Get it for me, now!