Sticks and stones won’t break your bones, but words can do considerable, long-term damage. If you have lost your confidence and you doubt your judgement, you may well have suffered mental abuse. Fortunately, it’s never too late to heal.
Your Self-worth Is Not Your Net-worth
Lisa, a friend of mine who has known me for the last 16 years, came to visit over the recent Christmas Holiday and asked me a powerful question I really had to stop and think about. As we were up late one night talking, she asked me, What is biggest lesson you have learned in this whole process of bringing forth your vision? I sat there and thought about it for a moment because there have been so many powerful lessons and insights I have gained, but the one that stands out …
From Loneliness To Connection
Dear Jane, I know a lot of people as acquaintances but I dont seem to have close friends anymore. Everyone seems too busy. Sometimes Im too busy to sit and listen. But then I feel lonely and isolated. Does everyone feel this way?
To Thine Own Self Be True
We have looked before on the concept of self-love and I would like to take the time into look into this in more depth.
If you remember, we said that AGAPE love was an unconditional love and that we needed to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. Let us look more closely at why we have so much difficulty in the area of loving and accepting ourselves. We will start by looking at two very basic questions.
Self-appreciation: The Key To Living A Life Of Joy
The role of self-appreciation in creating a life of joy is the focus of this article. What it means, practical steps, and the process of daily practicing joy in one’s self is the fundamental thesis.
Self-Esteem: Developing A Strong Belief In Yourself
Inevitably in life, we will face disapproval or rejection from others. It might be a family member, friend, employer, or even a stranger. They might disagree with the way we live our lives, the decisions we make for ourselves, or even who we are. They might belittle our dreams, criticize our goals, or make hurtful comments that reveal a low opinion of us. These experiences can be quite painful, because we all want to be liked and accepted. We all want to be supported and nurt…
Self-Esteem: How To Let Your Light Shine
This week something interesting happened to me. I made a gift for someone, and they absolutely loved it. As they exclaimed over it and admired it, they asked if it had taken me long to make. I shrugged and said, “Just a few hours” – when in fact I spent more than 30 hours working on it. I poured alot of heart and soul into it. Why then, did I diminish it? Why did I feel the need to fib about how much effort I had put into that gift?
I must admit, I had to give that questio…
Self Esteem: You Are Not Who You Think You Are
David sat in front of me at one of my five-day intensive workshops. A successful businessman with a wife and two grown children, David believed that he was not good enough.
Im insufficient, he said. Im inadequate.
I looked at this kind man and felt deep sadness for him. He did not know who he was.
Why do you believe that? I asked.
I didnt do well in school, and Ive made lots of mistakes in my life.
So you are basing your worth on your performance,…
Improving Self-Esteem With A Little TLC
It is so important to take time to do nice things for ourselves. Especially for those of us who spend much of our time helping and caring for others, it is too easy to neglect ourselves and become worn out, stressed out and run down.
Self-pampering is not about being selfish. It’s about taking proper care of yourself and treating yourself as kindly as you treat others. We spend so much time and effort caring for our spouses, children, pets, friends, family members, employe…
Learning To Love Yourself: Even Your Ugly Parts
Does that title make you cringe? It made me cringe when it popped into my head a few days ago.
We don’t like to think about our “ugly parts,” do we? By ugly parts of course I mean those aspects of ourselves we perceive to be less than perfect. For some it might be physical flaws, like acne, jiggly thighs or a persistent pot belly no matter how many hours we spend in the gym. For others there may be emotional issues like fears, phobias or low self-esteem.
One lesson I ke…